Can we talk a little bit about the petty bone? I’m sure we have been placed in many-a-situations (especially with men) that we’ve wanted to let the petty have its way. But I am here to tell you to PLEASE think before you release it.
Reading Colossians 3 has put a whole lot into perspective for me when it comes to how I’ve handled the men who have come and gone in my life. Because of my own hard-headed decisions, I allowed myself to be sucked into a relationship and “situationships” that were a waste. You see, before I made up in my mind that I was sick and tired of the bull and ready to surrender all (only a month ago), I was approaching situations like that of the world.
So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Colossians 3:5
I’m going to go ahead and keep it real with you. Not one of my past dealings with men were without any of those things. Since none of these “situations” were built on God and His firm foundation, it all eventually turned into a messy landslide. And because of that mess, it made me angry. I would be sitting in my room listening to Kelly Rowland’s “Talk a Good Game” album plotting my revenge. My petty was at an all time high. Now, I’m not one to use profanity, but I’ve had to exchange some not so nice words with a few folks. My Twitter fingers were ruthless. I even tried plotting the demise of a guy’s reputation because I wanted him to hurt as badly as I did.
However, I was never successful in making that come to pass. And you know what… I give God the glory for it, because that wasn’t the real me. That wasn’t the woman of God. @@The more I attempted to bring misery to the lives of those who hurt me, the more I brought misery to myself.@@ I was also stunting my own growth.
But now is the time to get rid of anger, rage, malicious behavior, slander, and dirty language. 9 Don’t lie to each other, for you have stripped off your old sinful nature and all its wicked deeds. 10 Put on your new nature, and be renewed as you learn to know your Creator and become like him. Colossians 3:8-10
I put my very last “situation” to rest last month. I realized that I would have had to give up a lot of what God required of me so that I could be who they wanted me to be for them. After having my eyes opened up to that reality, that is when I decided that enough was enough. I couldn’t continue to live my life this way. I wanted better.
What I didn’t see was that I was already on the path to better, but I wasn’t all in.
For you died to this life, and your real life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:3
I claimed to be living a life led by Christ, however, my behavior and choices in these “situations” did not reflect Him at all. That was a rather clear indicator that He was nowhere in any of them. I was supposed to be dead to my old ways and habits. When I surrendered to Christ, I was raised to new life but it seems that all I wanted to do was live backward. He died so that I would not have to experience such heartache and pain anymore. He died so that I could have better for myself. He gave me the opportunity (on many occasions) to be changed and walk in this life of abundance that He came for me to have.
As I’ve been saying a lot lately… I was hard headed.
After many sleepless nights and countless tears, I can now say that I am free. I have come to embrace my real life which is hidden in Christ in God. That life is being revealed to me moment by moment as I continue to seek His face. I am grateful that the old me is dead. @@If I wasn’t careful enough and didn’t take heed to my mistakes, I would have let my petty block my blessings.@@ In all of the time that I used to try to get vengeance for my hurt feelings, I could have been devoting that time to the Lord. My future boo could have been ready for me, but I was too busy being focused on what should have been dead. I was setting myself back. Therefore, I must continue to wait.
But God is good and His timing is perfect. I’ve taken a stand and have made the commitment to seek Him and to let the things of my old life go. The word says that if we seek Him first, (His wisdom, His power, His will) all that we need will be added to us.
I definitely don’t take those petty days for granted, though. They’ve taught me a lot. Plus without them I wouldn’t have a testimony to share. @@I encourage you to let that petty go. It will bring you only temporary satisfaction and long-term pain.@@ It’s not worth it, fam. I can’t stress this enough.
If you’ve accepted Christ, you have died to this life. Raise up from the dead and embrace your resurrected life! There is so much better ahead of you if you give it over to Him. You’ll have peace and a life tremendously better than the life you had when your hotline was blinging. Trust me. I’m living it.
@@Don’t give the petty the power to block your blessings. You have the power to block the petty!@@